Dance around the world: my all-time-favourite ;)

This is my ultimate mood lifter.

Always. When I first came across ‘Where the Hell is Matt?’ in 2008 I watched it in a loop for DAYS, and the song has been on all my playlists since. I sing along to it though I still don’t know the actual words. It sends warm chills down my spine as it stirs the never really dormant travel bug in me.

Lx

He’s still dancing, by the way: http://www.wheretheheckismatt.com
(March 2016)

Meandering about in Wonderland

I found myself at a Latin American Spanish ladies artists’ event in Dubai tonight, as one does, and just before leaving I was asked the classic cocktail question by a fellow coach: ‘So what are you doing?’.
I said, as I do these days: ‘At this very moment, I’m travelling.’

Her: ‘Ah sabbatical year!’
Me: ‘Sabbatical half-year, yes, life is good.’
Her: ‘Si, que bueno! Where are you going?’
Me: ‘I don’t quite know’, which is my truth at hand.
 

Her: ‘Do you know Alice in Wonderland?’

Me: ‘Of course ;-)’
Her: ‘Do you remember the cat she meets?’
Me: ‘Yeeeees!?’
Her: ‘And do you remember the conversation they had?’
Me: ‘errrrrrm remind me, please…’
 
“Alice: Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?
The Cheshire Cat: That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.
Alice: I don’t much care where.
The Cheshire Cat: Then it doesn’t much matter which way you go.
Alice: So long as I get somewhere…
The Cheshire Cat: Oh, you’re sure to do that, if only you walk long enough.”
― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland
 

We’re constantly meeting people on our paths.

I’ve come to find I can often put them into four main categories:
– some guide us along our way, to give helpful pointers and lessons we need to learn, subtle or strong,
– some challenge us to find our answers, our place, to test our learnings,
– some come with messages, downright information
– and some are angels, beautiful angels – they appear to say ‘you’re ok, honey, everything is just fine!’
 

There is no right or wrong: we get to choose our truth of the moment.  

This encounter could have been any of the above, and it is all of them to me in some way or an other – but as her story was unfolding I felt that she was an angel for me tonight, reminding me that everything is OK just as it is.
Yes, if we want to get somewhere, figure out where it is. And go. Take baby steps or great leaps, it doesn’t matter.
And if, at times, we don’t really know where it is we’re going, that is also ok. No need to beat yourself up about setting or reaching goals and destinations all the time.
Just keep moving in a way that you enjoy the journey, stop from time to time to smell the flowers, celebrate the mad hatter’s non-birthday at his tea party when you stumble upon it… and eventually a pattern, a path or a destination will become clear.

 

It may only become clear much later, but everything happens for a reason, trust and embrace the process.

As Steve Jobs said:

The dots will connect in hindsight,
so for now, follow your heart’.


So long as it’s moving, it’s ok!

LA palmsSo long as it’s moving, it’s ok”, this is what my godmother Sally said to me once about traffic on the LA freeways, ‘just stay off of it when it’s a parking lot!’.

Navigating Los Angeles is a skill in itself; and even when the traffic seems backed up for miles, and looks like the worst of traffic jams to us Luxembourgers who get antsy when we have to stop at the same red right more than once to get through it, the freeway will, with patience and varying speeds, eventually get you there.  BUT ONLY ‘so long as it’s moving’.

This is the local wisdom I was given years ago and I drive by it.

I also live by it.

Girl in motion

Why it so important to be in motion has been researched and philosophised about. I’ll go with Gretchen Rubin’s bottom-line from her book (which I recommend), The Happiness Project:

‘To feel happy, it’s not enough to have fun with your friends, and not feel guilty about yelling all the time, and feel like you’re working in the right job; you also need to feel growth—a sense of learning, of betterment, of advancement, of contributing to the growth of others.’

‘Being happier requires you to think about feeling good, feeling bad, and feeling right, in an atmosphere of growth.’ – Gretchen Rubin, The Happiness Project

So find a life purpose, discover what it is that makes us come alive, and keep moving towards it! The journey is the destination.

Especially when I feel stuck, I mumble to myself ‘so long as it’s moving, it’s OK’ , at which point I must ask myself the all important questions:

’AM I MOVING?’,  ‘HOW am moving?’ and ‘Am I content with the way and speed I am moving by?’.

We can be moving in so many ways, here some I have found myself going by:

Flying with the jet stream, riding a wave, flowing with a powerful current 

I picture Nemo joining the sea turtles on the East Australian Current 😉

Sometimes we’re moving really fast, yes, we know we’re moving, we actually see the landscapes around us change. It can be scary and better still, really exhilarating, even dizzying.  And there is no doubt: things are happening!

Flying against the winds, still flying, just it requires so much more own effort

Yeah, sometimes the road is bumpy, or downright closed and we need to make detours. Or the mountain is a bit steeper, the air gets thinner… this one is when just getting out of bed is harder. But we do.  We’re on it, we’re busy, and even if slowly, things are happening!

In the bog – as in ‘moor’ (not toilet, not necessarily)

Gah sometimes everything seems to drain us, to pull us down, to push us down… we feel the murky water of stagnation creep up, make us heavier. For me, this is one to get out of ASAP, because the higher the waters rise, the stronger the negativity sets in and the harder it is to even move a limb, let alone a thought. ‘Keep swimming, just keep swimming’ (Nemo, again)

Pitstops and vista points

Sometimes we stop, take a break, enjoy the view, catch our breath, re-assess – still in the spirit of moving AND resourcing. It is important to charge the batteries, fuel up the energy levels; this is a conscious and very essential stop while moving.

The stroll of life

Ah this one is TRICKY. Sometimes we’re moving along so rhythmically, that we think we’re not moving.  And sometimes we’re so busy and tired with life we think we’re moving when in fact, we’re not at all. Here’s one to stay very aware in because it can be so misleading.

The parking lot, gridlock, that lull of the everyday grind

Sometimes we check out. Let go of all projects, dreams, intentions… in my case get stuck on the couch watching reruns of tv series and not doing my washing. Nothing happens here. Gridlock is a useless place to be.

For ME, ‘couch etc’ is also one of my ways to resource, which is why it is so important to keep asking where I am at. Am I sourcing or have I checked out?

I.e. ’Am I moving and am I happy with the way I am moving? Is it time to change gears and speed things up, or down, yet, or even to take another route?’ And if I’m in gridlock, I have to turn up the tone on myself for a ‘how long will you stay here before you move your ass off the couch?’.

I have, for myself, decided that forever gridlock is not an option unless I want to disappoint myself; I am a hungry learner and always travelling, Yes, personal growth is part of my happiness formula.  And I am here to be happy.

I got off the couch to write this.

Baby steps count.

‘So long as I’m moving, I’m ok!’ – Thank you Sally x